Sexless marriage is loosely defined as a marriage in which sex occurs less than ten times per year. It's estimated that 15-20% of couples are in low sex relationships. Where there once was passion, or at least physical connection, there now is more or less a roommate situation.
According to Michele Weiner Davis, author of the book Sex Starved Marriage, a low sex marriage becomes a major problem when one spouse is "desperately yearning for more touch, physical closeness, more sex, and the other spouse is thinking: 'What is the big deal? Why are you so hassled?' When this major disconnect happens, intimacy at all levels tends to drop. It's really about feeling wanted, feeling loved, feeling appreciated and feeling connected and, in this case, feeling feminine. Because of the hurt, they stop spending time together. They stop laughing at each other's jokes. They stop making eye contact. The bond between them really dissipates, and it puts the marriage at risk for infidelity and divorce."
I've worked with many clients who came to me frustrated, sex-starved, and often feeling rejected and humiliated. I've coached them through reconnecting with their partners and bringing more affection, connection, and sex back into their relationships. To learn how I do this, listen to my interview with The Steve Experience podcast.